10 Character Building Blocks

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Character is a word that is well talked about both in the business and professional spheres. It is a reference to the personality of an individual, the qualities and attributes unique and distinctive to the individual. This is who the person is in the absence of an audience. This is what an individual sees when they place a mirror in front. There are many things that shape or build character either for the good or bad. Some character traits can be re-modeled and turned around for good. When you are aware of some of the building blocks to your character, you will become more deliberate and intentional about building your own personality. You will be cautious and aware of what makes you the person you are. The reason behind is to make sure your character is sound, stable and full of integrity. Your character shapes people's perception and association they put to your name. Your name can gain the influence necessary when you have a noble character. Your name can buy better than your cash. Your reputation counts in your dealings with humanity.

The 10 Bricks

1. Your past experiences (background & upbringing ) – The things you are drive towards in life are usually those things you grew up exposed to. You can only go as far as your exposure can take you both on good or bad behavior. I have seen many who have grown in environments where alcohol was abused and under intense verbal and physical abuse of family members. The character traits tended to follow the same pattern even through school. I had a bully of a friend in school whose home environment was exactly how he lived his life. He valued beating other people for fun. It became his character block. It goes without saying that if you were not exposed to violent behavior you are less likely going to become violent than one who experienced it every day. Expose your children to the correct character values ​​and traits and they will naturally grow into that.

2. The feeding of the mind (mental diet) – Your mind is the engine room for your character. You become what you think about most of the time. You think about the things you feed your mind with. The mind is always hungry and serious about creating thoughts. Thoughts graduate in beliefs, actions, habits, into character and ultimately a lifestyle. We feed our minds by the things we watch and read. The television shows we watch the websites we visit, the books and magazines we read all feed the mind. Since the mind is the seedbed of character, it is vital to feed the mind with the correct diet. You get what you feed your mind with. You can not expect good to come out of garbage. Garbage into the mind, Garbage will be displayed in the form of personality or character. As you watch what you eat physically, watch what you feed your mind subconsciously.

3. The Counsel you entertain – It is important to receive council from people you look up to such as mentors and heroes in your domain. Everyone needs a significant other that can speak into their lives. People you hold with high esteem and regard can easily model bad character. You can easily think that it is alright to behave in a certain manner because you see your mentor doing it, you see your Pastor condoning it, you see all your leaders speaking well of it, your personal life coach advocates for it. Always judge the counsel you get. Is this building me to become a better person or I am being dragged to become another person I never wanted to be. You have the right to shape your own character.

4. The Values ​​you enact – A personal value system is necessary in the formulation of true character. People can preach to you about good behavior but you certainly lean towards the values ​​you hold dearly to your own heart. It is easy to judge a person's character based on the values ​​they uphold. Do you uphold honesty, integrity, family etc? Come up with your value system. It will generally tell everyone about your character without you having to raise your voice to convince anyone about it. Always revisit your value system seeking to check on the actual real tangible value you get from upholding such values. Bear in mind that you enact or come up with your own value system. It is important to however bring these to light in the institution of marriage because people usually get married without synchronizing value systems. In the end both sides always get surprised and think the other party has weird priorities resulting in frustration.

5. The Habits you become familiar with – Those seemingly little things that you do naturally when you have no one looking at you are building your character. When there is an audience, people tend to show face, tailor their actions, watch habits and even watch their own words for that period. That is perception or reputation management. Catch the same person unawares, singing explicit lyrics and doing the unimaginable. That is the real person not what you see advertised. Those little habits compounded together are strong bricks that are building your character. You easily become familiar with something you do regularly. Take stock of those little habits on your own. You are the best assessor of yourself as you can afford to be true to yourself about it without taking offense. Stand in the mirror and take note of those little things. Until you make a decision to change the habits, your character will be enshrined and embodied by what you do.

6. The Associations and Relationships you create – Every human being has an intrinsic desire to network or reach out to those around. It is in our associations that we get to learn a lot on life. Advice from a friend is sometimes more valued than from any other person including a relative. Friends normally have some things in common. It is rare for people with different and diverse interests to be close to each other. Friends spend time, talking and playing together. It is in the process that one learns new things. What have you become since your become friends with that person? What were you before that you may have otherwise lost? When you part with your friends do you become someone else you are not when with them? Be real.

7. Your Psycho-Social Spiritual Involvement – Your own spiritual connections have values ​​and beliefs they hold on to dearly. These are beliefs you mix or used to formulate or align your own values. There are general character expectations expected of certain social or spiritual gifts. They are sometimes governed by rules and regulations, codes of conduct, commandments, policies and procedures etc. The condition is that for someone to be a part of any social or spiritual group there is an apparent expectation that he / she adheres to the given expectations. There are traits and attributes one may carry in life but as soon as someone joins the group, the character expectations dictate how a member must behave both in the personal life.

8. Your Verbal Produce – Your mouth has capacity to produce the bad and the good. What you speak on is something you have internalized. When you speak about something so often, you will soon belief and become it. It is always good to come up with affirmations that you read out loud to yourself over and over again until they become part of your confession and second nature. Affirmations are about speaking something that is not as though it is happening in the present. You say it while attaching all the emotion and focus that goes with it. Begin to feel you have received what you are talking about. It creates in you a sense of achievement and as you continue to carry this attitude, you become what you are talking about. Total character change for the better. Say things like "I am a person of integrity, I am resolute and make my decisions wisely, I am compassionate and loving, I am honest with myself and with others, I have great respect in my community and country …." Just keep going. Write those attitudes you want not talk about the ones you want to change.

9. Your Decisions & Standards you set – What you settle for in life can shape your character and attitudes. It all boils down to choice at the end of the day. What you choose to become is usually what you begin to work towards. You do not just become a certain type of person until you make a choice, or decision to become that person. Choices are pivotal in shaping character. We can give you all the benefits of having a certain type of character but if you have not internal buy-in you remain where you are or choose to become the exact opposite. Your character is shaped by your exposure. Your standards are fashioned by your level of awareness.

10. Your Vulnerability & Accountability Willingness – The building of good character traits happens in a position of vulnerability and accountability. You will only be helped to the degree of your willingness to receive the help. Character excellence is birthed when you allow external parties to know what you are going through for the purpose of being assisted and setup for success. You need an accountability partner, someone that can tell you as it is without you being offended. You have to be willing to tell the truth. Accountability setups hold information in confidence, nothings goes out to third parties.

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Source by Rabison Shumba

2 Ways to Discover Your Raison D'Etre – Reason For Being

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Raison D'Etre is French for reason, or purpose, for the existence of someone or something. Each and every person comes into this world with a purpose, unique talents to achieve that purpose and the inner wisdom to guide them along the way. This is a birthright. Without exception. Since everyone walking this Earth exists, you would think that everyone knew his or her purpose in life. Unfortunately many people are disconnected with their Raison d'etre and are plodding along, successfully or not, spending their life energy and time doing something that may feed themselves and their family yet starves their soul.

We do not live in an either / or world. We live in an "and" world. You can do both. Simply put, the reason you are here is to express your full potential using your unique qifts. You are here to tap into the intuitive driven passion that achieves the purpose of bringing forth your unique gifts out into this world – expansively. For those that feed their soul, do what makes their heart sing, work is play and each day is an opportunity to express to the world who they are, what they are here to do. Life flows seemingly effortlessly. Even with the ups and downs, twists and turns, life is fulfilling and worth the ride!

For those who live off-purpose, doing what they think they 'should' be doing, live can be exhausting and unfulfilling even if successful. Those who have turned their back on their raison d'etre feel like something is missing and will sometimes joke that they "still do not know what they want to be when they grow up" well into adulthood. If you struggle to find joy, energy and satisfaction in your work and in your life you are living off purpose. You are not living a life in alignment with who you are at your deepest core. Chances are you do not even know what your unique talents are let alone use them. The funny thing is, many people do not see what their special gift is because it comes so easily for them. They find it so easy and effortless to do what they excel at naturally that they think everyone can do it. It does not occur to them that this unique talent is theirs as a birthright with which to express themselves and build their life around.

"Seek the wisdom that will untie your knot, seek the path that demands your whole being." ~ Rumi

There are two simple ways to get a glimpse at who you really are and what your unique gift is to share with the world:

1. Think back to when you were a child. Who did you admire or aspire to be? Was it a famous person, a character in a book or movie, a relative or teacher? Who awed you, made you stop and pay attention? Once you have identified this person, what attributes of this person impressed you? Were they brave, funny, larger than life, strong, loving, free, giving, smart? What was it about what this person or fictional character did that called out to you? List as many attributes and actions as you can.

For example, as a child I was awed by a character I saw in a movie on TV, "Auntie Mame". Auntie Mame was a woman who was eclectic, fun, fashionable, surrounded herself with wonderfully odd creative and talented people, traveled around the world and experienced fun and fascinating events in her life. She lived this rich in experience life and mentored others to do the same. Oh, how I wanted to be Auntie Mame! However, I did not see myself then as being extroverted enough to put myself 'out there' as she did, take risks and stand up for who she is and what she believed in. As an adult, I reconnected with my truth and now live a life centered in the truth of who I am, enjoy rich delicious experiences, am surrounded by a wonderfully eclectic group of talented people and mentor others to live their lives as richly whatever that means to them.

Who you aspire to be, what speaks to your soul as a child, is a mirror of who you are. You love what you see in that person or character because it is a reflection of you! Show up in your life expressing your Inner Auntie Mame, Ninja Warrior, your hero.

2. What energizes you? Think back to a time when you were 'in the zone'. You were totally present, in the moment, doing whatever it was that you were doing, enjoying it fully without any sense of time and space. You were totally focused and bursting with creativity. These 'in the zone' experiences are windows to see your special gifts, your unique talents. You are energized, firing on all cylinders. These are the moments that you are expressing YOU fully.

"The best thing you can do is get good at being you!" – Denis the Menace

As an example, here is an anecdote about Krista Vernoff, Head Writer and Emmy Award nominee for the television show, "Grey's Anatomy". Even though she loved to write, Krista thought she was supposed to be an actress. She held a belief that one had a better shot at making a living as an actress than as a writer. Bar-tending was suggested to her by many well meaning relatives worried about her career choice. She got quite good as an actress and was making a living at that craft. Still, she could not tear herself away from writing. Writing came so easy for her that she did not give herself much credit as a writer. "You have to work hard for a living" and she was definitely working hard to be a working actress. For Krista, being an actress was exhausting! Writing was playful, what she did for fun, what she did to feed her soul. Success as a writer was always a certainty.

One day a fellow actor in a play noticed that Krista would run to her dressing room to write whenever she was not needed on stage. Most actors lived to be on stage where Krista lived to be offstage where she could write. Once this fellow actor commented on this upside-down state of affairs, Krista realized that if she was going to live a fulfilled live she must acknowledge and honor who she is – a writer. At the end of the play's run, Krista devoted her life to expanding and express her raison d'etre – to write!

When you commit, give your full attention and energy to standing firmly centered in the truth of who you are, life is magical. You have fed your soul, you are whole. As a complete person, you have the inner resources to give to others whether that be through your craft or through your presence in their lives. You have the energy and desire to share you with the rest of the world. You live life on purpose, in the zone, and tapped into the passion and wisdom that is yours and yours alone. This is what you are here to do. Find a way to spend more time doing what gets you 'in the zone'.

If you are not satisfied or fully engaged in your life you have a choice. Will you remain committed to this unfulfilling life or will you discover and commit to your raison d'etre. A fulfilled life begins when you go beyond the outer threshold of your comfort zone. The choice is yours.

"Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who mind do not matter and those who matter do not mind." – Dr. Seuss

Copyright (c) 2009 Valery Satterwhite

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Source by Valery Satterwhite

Newspaper Reading for Language Students

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A Khmer student wrote to me on YouTube and asked me to produce videos about how to read English language newspapers.

"I'd like to ask you to make videos how to read newspaper and translate it from English to Khmer. I Khmer and I having a problem to understand English phrases." Wrote the student.

Language learners often write telling me about some area of ​​learning or area of ​​their lives where they are experiencing difficulties of comprehension and ask me for a trick or a guide to help them learn.

As I have said in numerous other language learning articles, there are no tricks and no hints. The more hours you invest, the better you will get. And if your goal is to read at a native speaker level, then you need to read things a native speaker reads. If you are a 22 year-old university graduate, then you need to be reading at that level in the foreign language. And you will not get there by reading textbooks ABOUT the language. You will get there by reading books, articles, and textbooks IN rather than ABOUT the language.

If we analyze this latest email, the student says he has trouble reading, and he specifically singled out newspapers.

Obviously, reading is reading. On some level, reading a newspaper is no different than reading a novel or reading a short story.

If you are reading novels and short stories, you should be able to read newspapers. If I asked this student, however, he is probably is not reading one novel per month in English. If he were, newspaper reading would just come.

Therefore, the problem is not the reading or the newspapers, per se. The problem is the lack of practice.

I never took a course called "Newspaper Reading" in English. I just started reading newspapers. And at first, I had to learn to deal with the language, structure and organization of newspaper writing, but no one taught me, or you. It just came to us. The same was true for German or Spanish newspapers which I can read almost as well as English. No one taught me, or taught Gunther or Pablo, it just came through practice.

A point, that I have made many times in articles, is that when you begin learning a foreign language, you are not an idiot. You are not starting with an empty brain. One reason it takes babies three years to learn their native tongue is because they are also learning what a language is and how language works. You know all of that, and much more. Babies do not know that there is such a thing as grammar. Every single piece of vocabulary has to be learned. A seven year old may not know the words "population, economy, government, referendum, currency" in his native tongue. So, reading a foreign newspaper would be difficult for him, because reading a newspaper in his mother tongue is difficult for him.

If you are an adult, coming from a developed country, with at least a high school or university level of education, you should already be able to read newspapers in your native tongue. At that point, reading a newspaper in a foreign tongue is simply a matter of vocabulary.

True there are different uses of language, and styles of writing. And newspapers do have style which differs from other kinds of writing. But you just read, and read and figure them out.

The problem with most learners, however, is that they are not reading novels and short stories. Most learners need to just accept that they need practice. They need to read, and read, and stumble, and fall, and read again, until they get it.

I did not develop a taste for reading the newspaper in English until I was in my late twenties. But, by that time I had read countless books in English, and completed 16 years of education. I only began reading newspapers because I had to read foreign newspapers at college. Then I learned to read the newspapers in English first, to help me understand the foreign newspaper.

One of the problems, specifically with Khmer learners is that there is so little written material available in Khmer. American students have had exposure to newspapers, magazines, novels, reference books, poetry, plays, encyclopedias, diaries, biographies, textbooks, comic books … Most Khmers have not had this exposure.

If they have not read it in their native tongue, how could they read it in a foreign language?

And, I am not just picking on Khmers. True these styles of writing are not available in Khmer language, but even in Chinese, Korean, or Vietnamese education, where these many styles of writing exist, students may not have had exposure to them. For example, Taiwanese college students said that during 12 years of primary school they never wrote a single research paper.

But then they were asked to do that in English, in their ESL classes.

Currently, I have a Thai friend, named Em, who is studying in USA. He has been there for three years, studying English full time, and still can not score high enough on his TOEFL exam to enter an American community college. In Thailand he is a college graduate, but education in Thailand is way behind western education. And in the developed world, American community colleges are about the single easiest schools of higher learning to enter.

If Em finally passes the TOEFL and gets into community college, in the first two years of core requirements for an American Bachelor's Degree, he will be given assignments such as "Read George Orwell's 1984, and explain how it is an allegory for communism, and how it applies to the Homeland Security Act in the US. "

When foreign students stumble on an assignment like this, they always blame their English level. But I am confident that the average graduate from most Asian countries could not do this assignment in his native tongue. Their curriculum just does not include these types of analytical book reports.

When I was teaching in Korea, there was a famous story circulating around the sober ESL community. A Korean girl, from a wealthy family, had won a national English contest. She had been tutored by expensive home teacher, almost since birth, and her English level was exceptional. The prize was a scholarship to a prestigious boarding school in the Unites States, graduation from which almost guaranteed admission to an Ivy League school.

Apparently, one of the first assignments she was given at her new school in America was to read a poem and write an original analysis of it, and then give a presentation in class. When it came time for her presentation, the student stood up and dutifully recited the poem, word for word, she also regurgitated, exactly, what the lecturer had said about the poem in class. And she failed.

In Korea, her incredible memory and ability to accurately repeat what the teacher had said, had kept her at the top of her class. But in America, she was being asked to do much more than that; think, and analyze, create, present, and defend.

The majority of learners believe that their difficulty in dealing with foreign education, books, newspapers, or conversations lies in their lack of vocabulary or failings of language. But once they posses a relatively large vocabulary, the real problem is some combination of culture and practice.

Getting back to the Khmer student and his problem reading English newspapers: To understand English newspapers you also have to know all of the news and concepts in the newspaper. The best way to deal with foreign newspapers, at the beginning, is to first, read a news story in your own language. Then read the same news story in the foreign language newspaper. Also you can watch the news in your own language and then in whatever language you are studying, and compare.

Translation is not just about knowing words. You have to know concepts. The first rule of translation is that the written text must convey the same meaning in the target language as it did in the source language. Even if the wording, in the end, is not even remotely like the original. No matter how good your foreign language skills are, you can not convey meaning which you do not know in your native tongue.

Recently, newspapers in Asia were running stories about the Taiwan Y2K crisis.
To understand the newspaper stories, you would first need to understand the original, global Y2K crisis. The global Y2K issue was something that Cambodia was not very involved in because there were so few computers in Cambodia in the year 1999. There were probably less than one hundred or so internet connections in Cambodia at that time. Next, you would have to know and understand that Taiwan has its own calendar, based on the founding of the Republic of China in 1911. Government offices and banks in Taiwan, record events according to the Republic of China calendar, which means, if you take money out of an ATM machine today, the year will show as 99.

Once you know and understand these facts, then you would know that Taiwan is about to reach its first century, in the year 2011, and is facing a mini-Y2K crisis, because the year portion of the date in the computer only has two digits .

The bulk of my readers do not live in Asia, and may not have known anything about the history of Taiwan, or the Taiwan date. But, any person with a normal reading level should have understood my explanation. It is not necessarily a requirement that you posses prior knowledge of the exact situation you are reading about, but you can relate it to other things you know about, for example, other calendars and otherY2K problems.

If you look at the above explanation, the vocabulary is fairly simple. There are probably only a small handful of words, perhaps five or six, which an intermediate language learner would not know. So, those words could be looked up in a dictionary. And for a European student, with a broad base of education and experience, that would be all of the help he would need. But for students coming from the education systems of Asia, particularly form Cambodia which is just now participating in global events such as the Olympic Games, for the first time, it would be difficult, even impossible to understand this or similar newspaper stories.

The key lies in general education, not English lessons. Students need to read constantly and simply build their general education, in their own language first, then in English, or else they will never understand English newspapers or TV shows.

By Antonio Graceffo

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"Goddess Remembered" – A Film Reflection

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"Goddess Remembered," Part of the Series, "Women in Spirituality" © 1989,
National Film Board of Canada
Produced by: Margaret Pettigrew
Directed by: Donna Read
Distributed by: Wellspring Media, Inc.

Wow, those hairstyles and puffy sleeves! The 80's – gotta love 'em. Look at the difference 20 years makes in social customs. Now, think what 2,000 years can mean, and 20,000 years, and back even further. This documentary pays homage to the goddess-worshipping religions of the ancient past. With its dinner-party format, I was expecting Judy Chicago to make an appearance. It would have been great to see each woman – Starhawk, Merlin Stone, Jean Bolen and others – sitting at the place setting of a goddess. Back in 1979, Chicago had depicted place settings for 39 mythical and historical famous women throughout history. By 1989, "The Dinner Party" had been up and running for a decade. It seems like a serious omission to me, although I did appreciate the goddess statue as a focal point on the table.

The dinner party theme of "Goddess Remembered" seemed fitting as it's been women who have historically grown, gathered, prepared and shared food, particularly in a social setting. (I do not see why it could not have been both men and women who domesticated animals.) The viewer could see that these particular women are all highly intelligent "heavy-weights" in the goddess stratosphere. And they have not been lounging around for the last 20 years.

Jean Shinoda Bolen is the woman who said how when she was giving birth she felt linked in time horizontally to every woman who ever was, and that "nothing had prepared me for this. It hurt!" Bolen is an author, a Jungian analyst and an activist. She has written many books with which feminists would be familiar, including Crossing to Avalon: A Woman's Quest for the Sacred Feminine, Goddesses in Everywoman: Powerful Archetypes for Women and The Millionth Circle: How to Change Ourselves and the World. Her Millionth Circle, she explains, is a tool she uses as "an advocate for women's circles with a sacred center as the means to reach a critical mass-tipping point to bring women's wisdom into the world."

Starhawk is also an author of many works that celebrate the Goddess movement including her latest, The Earth Path, which speaks about the root of our environmental destructiveness, and tells readers how to reconnect with the Earth. She describes herself as "a peace, environmental and global justice activist and trainer, a permaculture designer and teacher, a Pagan and Witch." Interestingly enough, she and Donna Read, the director of "Goddess Remembered," have co-produced a documentary on the life of archaeologist, Marija Gimbutas, called "Signs Out of Time."

Merlin Stone, a sculptor and art history professor, grew interested in archaeology while studying ancient art. In 1976 she wrote a book called When God Was A Woman which delves into matriarchal and matrilineal societal structures that were suppressed by Judaism and Christianity. Her other book, Ancient Mirrors of Womanhood, (1990) is a collection of stories, myths and prayers about the goddess.
Oh to be a fly on the wall at a gathering of such powerful women. I would have liked to see the name and title of each woman, every time she appeared on the screen; this would have been a good way for viewers to familiarize themselves with who these women are, but credits were not forthcoming until the end of the film, which struck me as weird.

The women and Olympia Dukakis, the film's narrator, discussed many diverse and interesting points. They spoke of how the serpent was a symbol of healing and prophecy. They spoke of Malta, the Greek island that is the oldest known repository of the goddess culture. The people of Malta are now predominantly Catholic.

The women all seemed to share the viewpoint of Luisa Teish who said she had rejected the notion of the "Great Bearded White Man in the Sky." She laughed, "I hung with Mary!" Later on she also said something meaningful for all women: "I am an ancestress of tomorrow."

Crete was mentioned as a place where the people had studied astronomy, mapping the stars and keeping records. Women there could be sea captains and chariot drivers, if they so desired. The creation of art was highly esteemed, and in this peaceful society, no evidence had been found of male / female inequality. No personal mark was ever found on a piece of art. Minoan Crete is the place where the worship of the goddess was intact for the longest period of time.

The Golden Age of Greece marked the beginning of men's power and the end of women's. The warrior cults came into the forefront then and thereafter, rampaging the Earth and exploiting her treasures. Greece once had gorgeous stands of trees and vegetation. These were chopped down to produce warships, and when the trees go down; the sand takes over. The place once known as Eden is now a dry and desolate land.

The claim that Old Europe was woman-centered, cooperative and non-violent seems to be a bone of contention (the self-proclaimed feminist Cynthia Eller, among many others, makes a case against it).

Following is a recent critique of "Goddess Remembered" that I found on the Internet Movie Database (www.imdb.com):

Unsubstantiated claims abound …, 10 May 2007

Author: thorn101 from United States – (Charles Sheaffer)
This film is filled with blatant nonsense and pseudo-scientific drivel. Various claims are made in the film which have no scientific or archaeological basis, and are merely assumptions or the result of faulty logic (and wishful thinking).

Claims like (allegedly) Goddess-worshiping Old Europe was an egalitarian, woman-centered society. It was cooperative, non-hierarchical, and non-violent. This is not true, many fortified prehistoric settlements have been found in Europe indicating the presence of warfare.

David Anthony, an assistant professor of anthropology at Hartwick College in Oneonta, NY, said that there is also evidence of weapons, including some used as symbols of status, and of human sacrifice, hierarchy, and social inequality. There is also no evidence that women played the central role, in either the social structure or the religion of Old Europe.

Lengyel and Tiszapolgar cemeteries indicate that fighting, hunting, and trading were male activities, because men were buried with flint tools, weapons, animal bones, and copper tools. Pottery was probably made by females and used mainly by them in domestic activities. This is reflected by finds of pottery with female remains. Also no domesticated or wild animals are associated with female burials.

Claims that satellite photographs have shown that the Neolithic monoliths of the Goddess "all stand on energy lines, which criss-cross the earth" is pure pseudo-science. There are no such things as "energy lines" that cross the earth. Also scholars are now disputing the identification of neolithic megaliths with any so-called "Goddess" worship.

The film contains many more such unsubstantiated claims.

Overall this is a nice flick to watch on an all girls night sleepover party whilst honoring your inner goddess with vast amounts of chocolate. The reality is that this mockumentary has no place in women studies, anthropology or archaeology, and I am appalled to still see it being taken so seriously.

Interesting, eh? It brings to mind an old Shakespearian quote, "The man protests too much." I know that neither he nor I were around 20,000 years or so ago, so I believe his argument is moot.

I would say that the main theme of "Goddess Remembered" is how women and nature are one. "As a species, we do not stand apart from nature," is something that Charlene Spretnak said, and I believe she is right. It really comes down to this equation:

Women = Nature (illustrated by caves, snakes, water, etc.)
Man vs. Nature (which pits Man against Woman)

Until Man honors and respects Nature and thus, Woman, our downward spiral toward oblivion via war and the destruction of the Earth, will carry us all down that swift and vengeful river together. And that would indeed by the end of His- and Her-story.

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Source by Patty Mooney

Racquetball After 40 – How to Beat the Younger, Faster Player

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My return to racquetball started six months ago, shortly after my 42nd birthday. After one session in the 4-wall ping-pong chamber, I quickly remembered why I love this game. Action. Speed. Aggression. Strategy. Lateral Movement. Body Slams. Trash talking … Racquetball has all that – plus a great cardio workout. After an hour, I was spent.

The next day, I also remembered why I stopped playing. Ouch. Sore in places I forgot I had. However, within a few weeks of regular play 2X a week – and with a diligent warm up routine – my body quickly acclimated.

I am not a doctor or a professional athlete, but I love to play sports and stay active, and I've learned what to do to keep my aging body in the game. If you want to get back into racquetball (and c'mon … I know you do!) Here are three areas you need to focus on to keep playing … and winning.

1. Do not Write Checks Your Body Can not Cash

The adrenaline of the game can motivate you to make plays that are going to punish your body. The two most common body wreckers are: diving for the ball and running into a wall. Add to that hyperextending your joints and hitting the ball too hard and you have a recipe for a seriously taxed body after your court session. If you play several times a week, these nagging bumps and pulls can turn into serious injuries that will take you significant time to recover. If you're over 40, you probably have a few more LB's than you did when you played in your 20's. Extra weight combined with hard impacts and lunges will lead to either heel bruises, knee strains, or back pulls (or all of them!). I've had them, and the only way to recover is usually to do NOTHING for a long time – and that just aint no fun.

Do not let your pride get the best of you. I've lost a lot of playing partners who put up a good fight for one game, but could not come back next week to play again.

Use your head. Stretch out for at least 15 minutes before you play. Precede your stretch with a short jog. Play against the side walls for at least 5 minutes. Practice playing low to the ground – it's the low lunges that lead to muscle pulls, so warmup that muscle behaviour before you play.

Deal with your post-game battle wounds ASAP. Do not be a hero and limp around for a week – if you do you're starting down the path of a long-term nagging injury. Ice it, jacuzzi it, asprin it, wrap it, etc. Get sleep so your body can heal. Take glucosamine for your joints. If you take care of your body, it will acclimate … just do not expect it to spring back like it did in your 20's!

2. Gear Up

Goggle, Shoes, Racquet glove and Knee Support. This is your required battle gear.

Yes, goggles can fog up … but eyeballs can not be replaced. Every time I contemplate peeling off my goggles – I end up taking a shot to the mug. A compressed racquetball hitting your eye socket can suck your eyeball right out. Enough said. Bring 2 pairs and rotate them when one fogs up.

Shoes. You need good shoes, that fit snugly. Do not grab your ancient nikes – get some new shoes. You do not need to spend a fortune. Get 2 cheap pairs that you can rotate so the shoes have time to recover. If your ankles are a bit out of practice, you may want to consider basketball shoes for extra support. If you turn an ankle you are on injured reserve for quite a while. Or, you can wrap your ankles before you play. Hey! It is not about lookin 'pretty … it's about winning!

Racquet glove. Keeps your wrist from getting carpal tunnel from straining to grip the raquet. Worth the small investment.

Knee support. I'm not a big guy … 170 pounds, 5 '10 "- and I'm in OK shape. But, I wear knee supports, and I'll tell you why. Because my knees were taking a pounding. If you want to play hard, you will end up diving for the ball or scrambling off the floor. you're a warrior – you can not help it! In the heat of battle, your knees will take the hit, but the next day you'll be hurting. and each following game … they'll get worse, and worse. Soon, you'll have to stop playing for a while. Let's face it – you're not 20 anymore. Your body needs time to recover. Plus you need to go to work on Monday and still be a pack-mule for all of your families' junk! Make sure you have enough body left over for your family!

Do not show up with velcro knee pads … you're not laying tile! Simple slip-on, breathable latex type knee supports that are not so tight that they restrict movement will help your knees survive.

3. Winning Strategy: Placement & Positioning. Especially important if you're playing younger bucks that have energy to burn. To conserve your energy, you need to play smart. Playing smart involves placing the ball in the right spot, and positioning your body in the right spot on the court. Hitting the ball hard does not win games. Putting the ball where your opponent is not does. Make the bastard run. Make 'em dive. Make 'em beg for mercy!

Here are a few playing tips I've learned that increase your odds of winning.

1. Quiver O 'Serves. You should have 3 or 4 good serves in your arsenal. Vary up your serve. Look back before you serve to see where your opponent is. Hitting into the backhand corner is good, but have it play off the side wall before it lands. Hit one that goes to your opponents ankles – fast. Mix in a dying high-corner lob that you can not play off the back wall. Include a fast ball wall-hugging backhand. Once you get your opponent striking out on your serve, keep varying it and feed the serves fast. Do not give them time to get set.

2. Body Positioning. Generally, with regards to position, try to stay in the middle of the court. If you're against a wall, hit a cross wall shot so the ball returns back to where you are – which forces your opponent to your wall. Do not hinder the ball. If your opponent is up front in the court, drive him back with a ceiling-first shot that forces him back. If you find yourself in a corner, get out of it and return to the middle as quickly as possible. Stay in the middle.

3. Wait for the Ball. When you get a good forehand shot, do not blow it. If you see a lane where you can hit the ball, make sure you are ACCURATE in your shot. If you're all juiced up, you'll hit it too hard and the ball will bounce too high, which allows your opponent to recover with a back wall return.

If the ball goes past you, no big. Turn around and play it off the back wall. Play your game, not you opponents game.

4. Find the Achilles Heel. Play a variety of shots early in the game to find your opponents weakness. But do not experiment when you have a kill shot. Take the kill. Toy with your opponent when you can afford it.

5. Keep the Serve! You can not score if you do not have the serve. If you are are returning a serve, it is GAME ON time. Get the serve back at all costs. Do not let your opponent run up a tab. How do you do this when they have a wicked serve? Learn how to read your opponents body language. Usually a server will 'telegraph' their move with a switch of the feet, a turn of the wrist grip, a drop of the shoulder. These little 'reads' will give you that extra milli-second to get a jump on that serve and get that SOB out of the server box.

6. Placement, placement, placement. Make your opponent run, scramble, dive. EVERY shot should be hard to return. That does not mean it has to be a kill shot, or a hard hit ball. To place the ball where your opponent is not, you need to know where they are! Which leads to my next tip.

7. Watch the ball and watch your opponent. Develop your kung fu senses. If your opponent is scrambling, they are generally going to hit weak returns (except for the occasionally LUCKY kill shot!). Try to anticipate where their next shot is going.

8. And lastly, my favorite tip. If you really want to get better, play at least 2X a week, and play with someone who is better than you! My regular partner beats me pretty much every game. He is simply Ninja good. A huge arsenal of deadly serves. A wicked kill shot (forehand and backhand). And an excellent strategic player. This guy played competitively when he was younger and never stopped. BUT, I'm gaining on him and I've beaten him a few times. I prefer a challenge to a win. I also beat other racquetball players easily.

BUT … I do not recommend getting obsessed and playing 5+ times a week. You'll beat up your body and burn out your thirst for the game. Find some regulars you can play with and stick to a schedule.

Have fun, cross-train, play hard, and keep those young guys RUNNING!

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Source by Nate Scharff

The Seven Chieftain Trees of Ireland

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You can plant trees grown in pots at any time of year but winter is the time to put in bare-rooted trees.

For instance, if you plant an apple tree now you need to cut a four-foot by four-foot hole. Put in plenty of well-rotted manure. Then add compost and heel in the tree.

You want to keep the area around it as weed free as possible. You can put geotex (a breathable liner that is a weed suppressant) down. Then in spring cut holes and plant in some chives and wallflowers. The chives will deter scab and the wallflowers will attract bees to pollinate the tree.

Irish has two words to indicate a tree, crann, and to indicate sacred trees, bile. Here's a list of the seven sacred trees of Ireland that might help you choose a tree.

By planting a tree you help mop up that CO2!

Out of those sacred trees there are seven that are considered the chieftain trees, totems for clans. The tradition grew out of each local settlement surrounding a single tree. The forests were revered because they gave so much sustenance. The trees gave nuts and berries for gathering. They also were the habitat for game that was hunted. They provided medicine when they were ill. Trees also became the first alphabet, the ogham, used in Ireland. Lastly, they could be cut to provide fuel to light both the hearth and the sacred fires at festivals.

Trees supported the Old Irish in body, mind and spirit. It is little wonder that trees are so rooted in the Irish psyche.

1. Oak – from the Irish duir, which can be translated at door. The oak is associated with County Derry and the oak is also associated with one of Ireland's three premier saints – St. Columcille of Donegal. Oak's strength is manifest not just in its use as a building material but also spirituality. Oak leaves crown depictions of The Green Man or Man of the Wildwood. Along with Hawthorn and Ash it is alleged to be the favoured habitation for fairies.

2. Hazel – Hazel is rather magical. Hazel nuts fed the salmon of wisdom. When the salmon had has his fill of these nine hazel nuts, he was also full of knowledge. Hazel rods are also used for water divining. The Irish superhero Fionn MacColl is the "fair son of Hazel" so areas associated with his adventures will also resonate with the spiritual energy of the Hazel.

3. Apple – County Armagh is Ireland's Orchard County. Of course, as the spiritual and ecclesiastical centre of Ireland it also is associated with St. Patrick. The classic Irish dessert is apple tart, flaky shortcrust pastry enveloping sweet local apples grown in the Loughall district. Apples, as well as turnips, are used in divination games at Halloween.

4. Yew – This tree can live for millennia or more and is frequently found in graveyards. There is a tradition that the cemetery yew grew a root around every corpse. Because it is evergreen and so hardy it symbolises eternal life. Along with holly, it was the wood favoured by Celtic warriors.

5. Ash – Both the Norse and the Celts viewed the tall ash as Yggdrasil, the Tree of Life. When cut it bleeds red sap. Because of its wide-spreading roots this species, along with the Yew, is associated with the Underworld. Because of this and the magical associations with fairies the ash was known as the 'door opener'. While very strong, it is also flexible. Along with willow it is a popular material for basket making.

6. Holly – This winter evergreen is associated with the battle between the Holly and Oak Kings at Winter Solstice. Because of its warrior attributes it signifies courage. Yet, because it is sacred to the waning year it has a more meditative side as well. This is the tree of the Spiritual Warrior rather than the soldier.

7. Pine – This species was one of the first to wood the isle of Erin. This is the other evergreen tree that comes into own at Winter Solstice. Pine oil is a great cleansing agent. The aroma of pine needles freshen the air and clear the lungs. While Holly battles oak for supremacy, pine is the peaceful, contemplative and deeply spiritual presence of winter.

Take a walk in the woods and get to know these trees. In a fairly short space of time you will find yourself admiring the beauty of one particular species. This may well be you own family's chieftain tree. Take a walk and see if a tree decides to share its totemic power.

Tree planting is a good way to offset one's carbon debt. If you do not have a garden consider giving a tree as a gift. One Christmas we presented friends with oak and birch trees for the daughters, a beech to mum and a maple to dad, who has family in Canada. Or you can help plant a forest. Ireland is one of the most deforested countries in Europe.

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Source by Bee Smith

Do Mascots Increase School Spirit?

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A school mascot can be an animal or insect to a type of person, flower or other entity. Mascots have been associated with athletic teams since interschool team competition began in the post-Civil War era in the late 19th century. The school mascot in its essence is a symbol of pride in the school and a certain spirit. In many cases the answer to the question do mascots increase school spirit is self evident. As the shrine to the Nittany Lion of Penn State has illustrated it is a part of school events and celebrations. There is even a tradition that began in 1966 called Guard the Lion Shrine that takes place immediately following the Homecoming Pep Rally with guest speakers, food and beverages, and a DJ.

Part of the enjoyable experience of attending a school game is watching mascots performances. A mascot is fulfilling its purpose when it is rousing its audience. Mascots are a recognizable face or personality for a school that builds popularity with fans and boosts the team spirit at games and other community events. They add to school history, tradition and pride. It is not just about getting into a suit. Mascots even have training camps and manuals to help them play their role to the hilt.

The most memorable mascots embody the desire to support the school and are a visual representation of their affiliation with the school they are proud to call their own. Many have in fact been promoted by students such as Joe Mason of Penn State who came up with the Nittany Lion symbol, or the students who selected Cy the Cardinal for Iowa State University, Sammy the Banana Slug lobbied for by students of the University of California Santa Cruz.

The tradition of mascots in the United States goes back at least as far as the Civil War where many regiments had living mascots. In the post Civil War era, intercollegiate and interschool competition began using mascots when intercollegiate athletic games and rivalries emerged. Some schools do not have mascots. One example is the University of Michigan that does not have a mascot that entertains at games. Its athletic department has maintained there was no need of one and that one would not reflect the spirit and values ​​of athletics at the University. It has refused to sanction one even tough over the years, mascots in a variety of wolverine costumes have been proposed. The word mascot came into the English language from a French word used to describe anything which brought luck to a household.

Mascots can be chosen without a great deal of deliberation or care. They can also be selected by popular choice as has happened more recently than it has over the years. No matter how they are selected there is a reasoning behind them. The mascots selected represent something the schools want associated with the symbol that can become a promotional tool as the most identifiable mascots have become.

When it comes to school mascots animal names predominate. Some are more common than others. A perceived image or quality associated with the animal makes some animals a more likely choice since they participate in supporting athletic teams. Hence, an eagle is a more common emblem than a slug. The more common mascots are animals associated with ferocity such as eagles, tigers, lions, bull dogs, wildcats and panthers. In the same vein, the more common human symbols are warriors, braves, chieftains, raiders, pirates. Besides animal mascots, warlike mascots account for about half of the human mascots. A martial spirit is represented in the majority of all mascot names. These mascots get the spectators to associate that spirit with the determination and will to succeed of the teams.

Mascots can have different uses. During games they get the crowd excited and involved in the game. They bring forth smiles and laughter with their antics and are an identifying brand, a symbol of school pride and a partner of the cheerleaders. The most identifiable mascots are ambassadors of the schools and their sport teams they have become associated with. An example is the Nittany Lion mascot of Penn State which makes more than 200 appearances each year of which only half are at sporting events, even though the inspiration for symbol came at a game between Penn State and Princeton in 1904. Being a mascot can become a career where one can earn a six figure income with a professional sports team, which is an illustration of their importance to the franchise they represent.

Mascots selection has taken different paths. Many mascots have been selected because students, school officials, locals or even reporters have given a nickname to the university or college. At BYU, in 1923 athletic coach Eugene L. Roberts in 1923 chose the cougar as the official mascot of BYU athletics because it was native to Utah and embodied the traits of strength, agility, grace, quickness and beauty he hoped BYU athletes would exemplify. Today Cosmo the Cougar is the official mascot of BYU athletics. Cosmo made his first appearance in front of BYU fans on October 15, 1953 when Dwayne Stevenson, the pep chairman of BYU, bought the costume for 73 dollars and persuaded his roommate to wear it. In 1924 a sports reporter used the description of wildcats for a game performance of the Northwestern University football team. That description became identifiable with the team. The first Willie the Wildcat mascot came to life in 1947 with a costume designed by the Alpha Delta Phi fraternity for their homecoming float. Mascots are a symbol of school spirit to rally round through losses and wins. For some students it is difficult to identify with or rally around a mascot attached to teams that do not inspire school pride with winning performances. However, as the Northwestern University football team has revealed, fortunes can change for the better. Through the lean period to the present period of improved performance Willie the Wildcat has been there for students to identify with as they stand by their team.

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Source by Adriana N.

The Role of Women in Beowulf – An Overview

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Their names are lost to the ancient depths of history, their stories muted by the centuries, but the women portrayed in the Old English Epic Beowulf were critical to any understanding of both the poem and the culture of that ancient time.

The pattern was this. Men's affairs were prefaced by a narrator, then articulated through all manner of poetic and narrative conventions, until the deed that was prophesied was played out to the last. Then, when the matter was put to rest, and men gathered in their mead hall for celebration and reward, the women emerged for a number of reasons.

First was to fulfill a crucial role of recognizing the bravery of their men, and to perform the ritualistic passing of the mead cup among those same battle weary troops. This served the purpose of nurturing the men's bodies and souls, a distinctly female role. But the act of service did more than satisfy thirsts and empty bellies; the service was highly ritualistic, bestowing recognition on specific thanes, or men who had distinguished themselves in battle, then on to the next in the order of distinction, and so on, until the order was observed. Additionally, women served the men in order to fulfill their fundamental role of peace-weavers. The mead cup was served in order to mark the allegiance of each man in his turn to the king, whose mead hall they occupied.

Also, their appearance in every post-battle section of Beowulf – following the slaying of Grendel, after Grendel's mother was killed, and after Beowulf was himself slain, and the dragon was dead, further amplifies the peace-keeping, peace-weaving role of women. Indeed, following the battle at Fittsburh, Hildeburh's grief was compounded because, not only had she lost a son, husband and father in one day, she had lost herself. She'd failed, in other words, in her social role of peace-keeper.

Maintaining and preserving peace was not just a role for women; it was their very identity. Another role for women was that of transition figure. Grendel's mother is a prime example of this: She avenges her son's death; she is in turn killed in the depths of a mere, foreshadowing Beowulf's descent into a sort of middle-earth to find and kill a dragon near the end of the tale.

The women in Beowulf further fulfilled their peace-weaving function by arranging marriages between potentially warring clans. As did Lady Capulet in Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, and like Helen of Troy, women were not only the arrangers for politically astute couplings, they were also the chattel involved in those couplings. Thus they knew better than men the implications of a union destined for failure.

In Beowulf, women were assigned the power of prophesy. Hrothgar alludes to this when Wealtheow, the old king's 'bed-companion', having done her ritualistic distribution of mead, takes her seat at the exalted side of his throne. It's also possible that, in serving the mead, women controlled one of the only facets of their lives in that warlike society, the power over mens' sobriety and wits.

They also played power politics on occasion. Queen Wealtheow rewarded Beowulf handsomely on his return from slaying Grendel. But she placed an addendum on her praise, saying that Beowulf would do well to take care of her sons until one of them could attain the throne of the Danes. As females are often depicted, then, Wealtheow was caring for her offspring, anticipating their struggle to overcome the rugged and warlike machinations of men in that age.

In Beowulf, specifically, women are given something of a starring role in the explication of the ruling Germanic code of the time. The example is Grendel's mother. Nameless, she's depicted as a savage woman, an evil beast, just like her son Grendel. But in avenging her son's death, she demonstrates the code of honor better than any of the men. Where Grendel had slain countless men of Hrothgar's Heorot cohort, Grendel's mother killed only one, the counselor Aeschene. And her act of vengeance was all the more intriguing inside the code, since she had no access to the commonly understood 'weregild', or man price that rightly belonged to her after Grendel was slain. Instead, Beowulf sought her out, in her own 'mere' home, and killed her.

The only flaw in Grendel's mother's observance of the code was in fleeing Heorot for her life, instead of staying and battling the men there. The Germanic code demanded that women display both elements of humanity, the compassionate and the warlike. Thus, when she fled, she betrayed the militaristic side of the code that demanded she stand her ground.

But perhaps the biggest role of women in Beowulf was that of prophetess. Wealtheow seems to be prescient in her admonition to Beowulf in protecting her sons. She warns him of dire consequences should they come to harm, thus recognizing the dangers that lie in wait for all their kind, if their warlike attitude persists. Again, following Beowulf's demise, 'a Geatish woman', name unknown, appears – again, after the battle – to warn the Geats that, because Beowulf their lord lies slain, they have much to fear from former enemies.

Women play an important role in Beowulf. Despite their background presence, and a dearth of lines for them in the epic, their words and actions serve the overall purpose of the poem, its concentration on variation and opposition. They are there after the battles, interrupting the celebrations with sobering words; they strive to uphold the ancient warrior code, sometimes better than the men do; they do their duty, which is one of the salient features of that code. And they provide, in addition to offspring for the nobles, a mirror for them in which to check their own successes and failures.

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Source by Edgington Byron

World of Warcraft – How to Get Frosty, the Rare Dragon Whelp Companion Pet, in WoW

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Strangely enough, the rare pet Frosty was one of the first I obtained in World of Warcraft. Now, many people are enquiring as to how I managed to do this. It was easy at the time (November 2009), but now it's a little trickier – though not impossible.

When I first started playing WoW, it was October 24, 2009. I knew nothing about the game back then, but really admired people who had cute little pets running after them. But I could not find any shops selling them; not even in StormWind. Then I saw a level 80 warrior who had a cat at his site, and I asked him how he had obtained it. This kind person gave me a snake, but I still did not know how to get more pets by myself. For my birthday in November, my husband offered me the special edition of the Wrath of the Lich King extension and, to my great surprise, it included an in-game virtual pet – Frosty. Frosty is a flying skeleton dragon whelp that has a frosty look, just like it should have, since it's related to the Lich King.

Unlike some other items, Frosty is truly account bound. All of your characters receive it, whether or not they are on the same server or faction. When you create a new character, they will automatically receive Frosty in their mailbox. You do not have to do anything to achieve this and, best of all, you do not have to send anything, since you can only mail items to the same realm and faction. The Wrath of the Lich King Collector's Edition sold out in a few days, but you can still get it if you search for it on either eBay or Amazon. Just make sure that the box is un-opened.

If you already have the extension, you just have to write to Blizzard and tell them about the code you received in your Collector's Edition, and they will tell you which papers to send them. After a few weeks, you'll receive your pet. Also, if you already have the extension, you will not care about the language of the Collector's Edition. We obtained one for my husband in German. Much easier to find there, than in English speaking countries. So, if you want to add the cool looking Frosty to your collection, do not hesitate. Get it now, while it's still available. There are only limited supplies available, and remember … unlike loot cards which normally are soul bound, you get this pet for all of your characters.

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Source by Britt Malka

A Psychological Profile Of Jimi Hendrix

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Jimi Hendrix

Biographical Overview

If ever there was a guitar player who redefined this instrument for anyone who has ever played it before or since, it would be Jimi Hendrix. Jimi's exceptionally creative, powerful, psychedelic licks helped him reach a musical standard that has never been duplicated, and in his four short years as a recording star he established himself as a musical legend without equal. His performances at the Monterrey Pop Festival which established him as a star, and later at Woodstock were some of the most awe-inspiring in the history of live music, and history will remember Jimi Hendrix as one of the most influential albeit enigmatic and mysterious musicians who ever graced the stage.

Jimi Hendrix was born John Allen Hendrix on November 29, 1942 to James (Al) Hendrix and Lucille Jeter in Seattle, Washington. Jimmy's father Al, who would be his primary parental force throughout Jimi's life, was in the Army when Jimi was born. Fearing that Al would go AWOL to go see his newborn son, the army placed Al in the stockade on "general principle" where he stayed for over a month until the army saw fit to release him.

Back in Seattle Jimi's mother Lucille quickly grew tired of being a single parent and virtually abandoned Jimi during his first few years of life. Jimi, then known as Johnny, first lived with Lucille's family, but was then placed with a woman named Mrs. Walls who took Johnny in and cared for him.

Al was finally released from the Army in 1945 when Jimi was three years old. Upon arriving back in the United States, Al regained custody of Johnny and promptly named him James after himself. Originally Jimi was known as "Buster" by his family, but at the age of 6 everyone began calling young James "Jimi" which would stick with him for the rest of his short life. Between the ages of 3 and 6 Al raised Jimi with the assistance of Lucille's Sister Dolores, and Jimi became very close to her children who were being raised in the same home.

When Jimi was 6, his mother briefly came back into Jimi's life when Al and Lucille attempted a reconciliation. Because there was little work in Seattle at the time, Al joined the Merchant Marines, and while he was away Lucille returned to her old carefree lifestyle, and was kicked out of the housing the Hendrix's were residing in for having inappropriate male visitors. Upon his return from the Merchant Marines, Al and the family reunited, and Lucille eventually had another son Leon in 1948, who had Asian features and was clearly not Al Hendrix's son. Lucille eventually had another son Joey by still a different father, and Al eventually divorced Lucille in 1950 as a result of her lack of stability.

Over the next few years Al raised Jimi and Leon with the help of his relatives, and Jimi briefly had another maternal figure "Edna" enter his life, who he grew close to but who was eventually forced to leave the Hendrix home to make room for other relatives. Lucille popped in and out of Jimi's life during his formative years, and would make extravagant promises to Jimi that she would not follow through on. On February 2, 1958, following many years of hard drinking and frivolity, Lucille passed away at the age of 32 which deeply saddened Jimi.

In his teen years Al Hendrix bought Jimi his first electric guitar which Jimi became so attached to that he slept with it on a nightly basis. Jimi was eventually recruited by a man named James Thomas, and Jimi then became a member of James Thomas and the Tomcats. During this same time frame, Jimi, who had grown disinterested in school, dropped out of Garfield High, and also got in trouble for being in a stolen car. Jimi eventually joined the Army during this period, and decided he wanted to be a paratrooper in the Screaming Eagles like his father before him.

Jimi met Billy Cox while in the Army and the two of them had a great deal in common including musical tastes. While in the army they begin to play a little together, and they formed a friendship and partnership that would later be rekindled when Jimi formed the band Band Of Gypsies.

Following his stint in the Army, Jimi moved down south and began playing the "Chitlin" circuit where he used the stage names "Maurice James" and "Jimmie James" and had some success as a guitar player. Jimi would even play backup on a Supremes record, and in 1964 he played with the Isley Brothers who were also very popular at the time. It was during this period when Jimi met Little Richard, who was a bit of a narcissist, and felt that Jimi's guitar playing upstaged him and took the focus off him which he felt was a necessary component of the act.

Jimi eventually split with Little Richard and moved to New York City where he at first had little success. After spending some time in Harlem, Jimi settled into the Greenwich Village neighborhood, where he formed a new band called Jimmy James and the Blue Flames. Jimi's unique improvisational style alienated a number of his fans, while others thought they were witnessing the birth of a genius. One of these people was Chas Chandler, who formerly played base for a band called the Animals who knew when he saw Jimi that he had discovered an amazing new talent. Chas convinced Jimi that he would have more success in England than in the United States, and in 1966 Jimi packed his bags and left the US to live in London.

While in London Jimi met Mitch Mitchell and Noel Redding, and the three of them formed the band The Jimi Hendrix Experience and begin touring around England. Jimi dazzled the English crowd, who were alternately shocked and amazed by Jimi, and he was described in the English papers as "The Wild Man of Borneo" which was a kind of racial slur against Jimi's heritage. The group was very successful, and their first album Are You Experienced produced the songs Hey Joe and Purple Haze which were both big hits on the English rock charts.

Jimi's breakthrough performance came upon his return to the Unites States at the Monterrey Pop Festival where his use of distortion and feedback on the guitar helped him create a sound previously unheard by American audiences. With the crowd already in a frenzy over his performance, Jimi set his guitar on fire at the end of his set, which further electrified the crowd and created a buzz about Jimi Hendrix that would propel him to the top of the music world.

One important ally Jimi made during this time was Brian Jones from the Rolling Stones, who introduced Jimi at Monterrey and was one of Jim's first important fans in the world of music. Following his performance at Monterrey, Brian introduced to Jimi to a lot of important people in California, which culminated in The Jimi Hendrix Experience being signed to go on tour with the Monkees who were one of the top drawing bands in the world at this time.

Jimi's wild style and sexually explicit actions on stage were not well suited to the Monkees crowd, and soon this tour dissolved and The Jimi Hendrix Experience began touring on their own. Over the next two years the band became hugely successful, and in addition to Hey Joe and Purple Haze, produced songs such as Castles Made of Sand, and Bob Dylan's All Along the Watchtower, which were all big hits for the band. The band eventually produced three hit albums, Are You Experienced, Axis: Bold as Love, and Electric Ladyland which all were huge successes. The band was not without its difficulties however, as Jimi and Noel Redding had difficulties agreeing on several issues related to the band, and in the summer of 1969 the band broke up despite the fact that they were at the peak of their commercial success.

Some speculated that Jimi broke up The Jimi Hendrix Experience because both of his bandmates were white, and that he was receiving pressure from the Black Panthers to make a statement about Black solidarity. Although Jimi did have an association with the Panthers in the 1960's, he used the standard "creative differences" approach to explain the band's breakup. But in any case it was apparent that he was hurt by all of the negative press he received following this incident.

Following the breakup of The Jimi Hendrix Experience Jimi began heavily using drugs, and a major turning point came in his life when he was arrested on May 3, 1969 at the Toronto airport for possession of Heroin and Marijuana. Jimi adamantly claimed the drugs were not his, but was rightfully disturbed at the prospect of facing seven years in prison, and thought a great deal about his legacy following his arrest. Jimi was eventually cleared of these charges, but still faced a great deal of inner turmoil as a result of this experience.

In the summer of that year, Jimi put together a group of musicians to play with him at Woodstock, and his performance there was one that helped cement his legend as one of the truly inspired live performers in the history of music. His Star-Spangled Banner on guitar was a huge hit with the fans, and would later become one of the featured scenes in the Woodstock film recordings that were produced at the festival. Later that year Jimi would also play at England's answer to Woodstock, called The Isle of White Festival, where he also dazzled and amazed his English fans, many of who had been with him from the beginning.

At the end of his life, Jimi reunited with his old army buddy Billy Cox, and they formed the Band of Gypsies, which would be Jimi's final group. This group had some success, but Jimi was beginning to become fatigued from years of working almost constantly, his continuing drug use, and the anxiety he felt arising from battles with his management, and earnings in the millions that he could not account for.

In September of that year, as the group was touring Europe, Jimi Hendrix was found dead on his hotel room floor as a result of an overdose of sleeping pills that caused him to choke on his own vomit. Jimi's death was highly controversial however, as some claim he was mishandled by paramedics which caused him to eventually suffocate on the way to the hospital. Jimi's death has been thoroughly investigated and researched, and despite all of the claims, a coroner's report confirms that Jimi had been dead for some time when he was eventually found on the morning of September 18th.

The legacy of Jimi Hendrix endures, and many still consider him to be the most unique guitar player that ever lived. His estate has made millions of dollars following his death, most of which was originally hidden from his father by unscrupulous managers of Jimi's affairs. Al Hendrix and his family eventually won back Jimi's legacy with the help of Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen, and Allen would eventually go on to build a Jimi Hendrix museum called the Experience Music project, which is a major tourist attraction in Seattle Washington.
Analysis
Gender Role Preparation perceived through Gender Guiding Lines and Role Models

Though his interactions with his father, Jimi learned the values ​​of hard work and perseverance that would guide him throughout his life and career. Although Jimi was occasionally portrayed as a spaced-out wild man under the influence of LSD, he was in fact an extremely hard worker who produced an amazing amount of material in his short career.

Jimi's father also instilled in Jimi the value of perseverance. Through all of his struggles with his wife Lucille, job difficulties, prejudice, etc, Al Hendrix continued to soldier on and raise his boy Jimi, and this lesson was not lost on his young son. This value of perseverance was so strong in Jimi that he practiced his guitar so often and so much that he eventually became a virtuoso. With no ability to read music and no real training, Jimi still managed to teach himself to play the guitar with his right hand despite the fact that he was born left-handed. All of these obstacles must have made the guitar very difficult for Jimi to learn, but through watching his father Jimi learned a man never gives up, and he therefore continued to work tirelessly at learning to play his guitar.

Jimi's female gender guiding line was much more complex. Although Jimi loved his mother, she disappeared often in his life, and Jimi was well aware of her infidelities towards his father. Later in his life Jimi's interactions with women appeared to be unstable, and his fear of commitment with women may very well have arisen from watching his mother's irresponsible behavior.

Jimi's mistrust of women is interesting to consider with regard to one of the women he was the closest to named Devon Wilson. Devon was a former prostitute, heavy drug user, and party girl who had also been romantically linked to Mick Jagger during the late 1960's. Devon lived with Jimi at his New Your apartment, handled many of Jimi's affairs, and was even the subject of one of Jimi's songs called Dolly Dagger. Like Jimi's mother Lucille, Devon would often disappear for days at a time and then come back when she was done with her extended binge. The fact that, despite Jimi's access to so many women, he trusted a clearly irresponsible woman like Devon Wilson to get closest to him, seems to suggest that he may have chosen her because her behavior was so much like his mother's growing up.
Interpersonal Style perceived through Experience of Family Atmosphere

On the subject of Jimi's mother, she and Al fought often while Jimi was growing up, and the Hendrix household was often filled with storm and strife when Lucille was around. Watching his mother and father fight so often appeared to affect Jimi's own relationships with women, as he was on several occasions verbally and even physically violent with women during periods of confrontation.

Jimi also lived in a number of different homes and places growing up, and in this capacity learned not to get too close to people as they may abandon you at any time. One poignant story Jimi himself related involved meeting his father for the first time at the age of three and taking the train from Berkeley to Seattle. Jimi recalled how much he wanted to return to the only "family" he had ever really known, and how odd it was to be taken on a train by some strange man he had never met. This sense of instability was reinforced often throughout Jimi's life, as a number of people would be significant in his life for a couple of years and then simply disappear, and this appears to have affected Jimi's ability to trust and get close to people.

Because Jimi was unable to achieve a sense of stability, he developed a shy and introverted personality that caused him a great deal of loneliness. Jimi dealt with painful feelings through artistic expression, and the ultimate capacity of his talent may have been a reflection of the intensity of his painful feelings.
Personal Code of Conduct Perceived through Acceptance / Rejection of Family Values

The family values ​​in the Hendrix household involved obedience to authority and a healthy respect for one's elders, and although Jimi had respect for his father, he came to distrust authority in his own life. There are many different versions of Jimi's life with Al Hendrix, many of which paint a picture of a very unhappy home life where Al constantly reminded his children of the sacrifices he had to make for his children. In Al's own autobiography My Son Jimmy (1999) he talked about how Jimi used to escape responsibility for his actions by blaming misdeeds on an imaginary friend named "Sessy" who Jimmy would evoke when he felt he had disappointed Al. It certainly must have been difficult for Al to raise Jimi by himself, and given the economic climate in Seattle at that time, there's no doubt that Al must have had to make some great sacrifices for Jimi. Perhaps Jimi's creation of an imaginary friend was a psychological defense against Al's disappointment, which seemed to be yet another factor in Jimi's unhappy childhood.

Another family value that Jimi seemed to reject concerned the family's views on religion. Although Jimi was raised by a church-going family who believed in worship, Jimi came to believe that his music was a form of great spiritual expression. Jimi rejected the stifling versions of Christianity he learned as a young man, and instead felt music was the way he could connect to the mystical and spiritual side of life.

Music also offered an escape for Jimi from his problems, and was certainly a positive adaptation for him to an unhappy childhood. Jimi often described how music would compose itself in his head, and his unparalleled talent in music may have been a result of this intense desire to escape his emotionally painful cognitions.
Perspective on the World perceived through Experience of Psychological Birth Order

As the first born son in the Hendrix household and the only son sired by his father Al, Jimi developed a sense that he was particularly special when he was a young man. Although Jimi's younger brother Leon spent a great deal of time with Jimi and his father growing up, he was also often shipped to another family during difficult times. The fact that Jimi was always the one that remained with his father must have made him feel like the "chosen" one much of the time, and he appeared to develop a sense that he was something special. This is not an uncommon reaction from a first born child, as they often receive more attention than their siblings do when they are born, as they become literally the center of their parent's universe.

For Jimi this situation did not unfold exactly like this, as his first three years were filled with a great deal of moving around that must have confused and frightened him at such a fragile age. The two women that adopted Jimi in these years both referred to his "specialness" however, so one can assume this was something he felt that was further reinforced when Al eventually came and got him following his release from the Army.

Jimi's biographers (Hendrix 1999) discuss how it was clear to Jimi that his younger brother Leon had a different father than him, and although Al certainly loved and cared for Leon, he must have felt some resentment from having to raise another man's child. Jimi therefore was the "favorite" growing up, and developed a sense of his own uniqueness that instilled in him a great deal of confidence in his abilities. This confidence was especially relevant in the early stages of Jimi's career, where audiences often disliked and were unable to understand his unique style of music. Although many artists would have become discouraged in this situation, Jimi was convinced of his own talent, and much of this resolve appears to have its roots in Jimi's early childhood experiences.
Self Assessment Perceived through Genetic Possibilities

Jimi Hendrix came from a talented family with a long history of performing in front of groups. Jimi's grandmother was an entertainer who traveled and worked as a singer and performer before her son Al was born, and even prior to this generation music was a strong part of the Hendrix tradition. Jimi's father Al and his uncle Leon both showed musical talent at a very young age, and both of them could play the piano, sing, and also dance at a young age, and often did so growing up. Jimi therefore appeared to have a predisposition to music that was inherited from the talented Hendrix family.

Jimi developed a stutter at a young age however, and was not confident as a singer and a dancer like the rest of his family. Therefore when Jimi did find a musical instrument to play, it appears that he compensated for his stutter by practicing a great deal on the guitar in an attempt to belong with his otherwise musical family.

Jimi also felt a strong identification with his family's Cherokee heritage. The extent of Jimi's Indian blood has been misrepresented often in several biographies that mention the subject. Jimi's father Al (Hendrix 1999) eventually clarified that Jimi's great grandmother was a full-blooded Cherokee, but Jimi did feel a strong identification with this portion of his ancestry. Al Hendrix explained that when Jimi and the other children played games like Cowboys and Indians when Jimi was a kid, Jimi always wanted to be the Indian as it helped link him with a part of his Heritage. Jimi created a great deal of art as a child that depicted the Indians conquering the cavalry, and he even discussed later as an adult how he felt a sense of power that came from his Indian blood.

In considering this idea it is fascinating to examine the lyrics from one of Jimi's big hits, Castles Made of Sand-

"A little Indian brave who before he was ten, played war games in The woods with his Indian friends, and he built a dream that when he Grew up, he would be a fearless warrior Indian Chief. Many moons passed and more the dream grew strong, until tomorrow He would sing his first war song,
And fight his first battle, but something went wrong,
Surprise attack killed him in his sleep that night "

Reading the lyrics to this song which Jimi wrote, one can not help but wonder how much it reflected both Jimi's dreams as well as his disappointments. In many ways this song demonstrated the conditions of Jimi's life, as, despite having "conquered" the music world, he still was very anxious about his life circumstances as a result of his arrest and also the large amounts of money he was missing. Much like the little Indian in the story, Jimi had been blindsided by events in his life, and this song seems to reveal the depths of his unhappiness.
Openings for Advancement perceived through Environmental Opportunities

One important adaptation Jimi made as a young man concerned the first guitar he ever received which Al purchased for Jimi for the price of 5 dollars. Jimi, who was born left-handed but learned to do most things right-handed, changed the strings around on this right-handed guitar and instead played it left-handed which was an adaptation that would eventually have a direct impact on his future musical genius. Jimi learned that by manipulating the instrument like this he could get different sounds out of it, and later as an adult he played his guitars both upside down and backwards which helped him carve out his own unique sound that no one else was readily able to replicate . Because Jimi made this adaptation at such a young age and practiced so excessively, his technique became something that was uniquely his.

Another early experience that shaped the young Jimi Hendrix was seeing an Elvis Presley concert while he was growing up in Seattle. Jimi became fascinated by Elvis's showmanship, and much of his early artwork produced flattering pictures of the King. Although Jimi was somewhat shy throughout his life, on stage he truly had no inhibitions, and at least some of this he learned from watching Elvis when he was a young man. The impact of seeing Elvis live seemed to awaken in Jimi a sense of the heights a person could reach through playing music, and this rare opportunity was for Jimi a tipping point that helped give birth to his eventual persona as a stage performer.
Range of Social Interest perceived through Other Particularities

One barometer of a person's mental health can be observed by examining their relationships and interest in the welfare of other human beings. Jimi Hendrix, who appeared to have abandonment issues related to his childhood, and who had also been betrayed by several business associates, therefore seemed to have trouble developing a profound sense of social interest. Although Jimi was often approached about social causes, he seemed to be most comfortable letting his music do his talking for him, and did not feel as comfortable as an advocate and leader to promote social change as many of his 60's counterparts.

In this capacity it is interesting to consider Jimi's relationship with the Black Panthers as well as the larger issue of racism in the life of Jimi Hendrix. Growing up Jimi watched his father experience a great deal of racism related to finding jobs, etc. and this must have affected the young Jimi a great deal, as a lot of his early artwork depicts struggles for equality and justice. Jimi also experienced racism following his release from the Army when he went to play the "Chitlin" circuit in the Southern United States, where there was clearly different treatment for white and black musicians.

Jimi was eventually discovered a white man Chas Chandler, and found fame and acceptance with two white musicians who were of course Noel Redding and Mitch Mitchell. Although Jimi found success in the UK with these two men, he was still mocked by the British papers as "the wild man of Borneo" and with other racial epitaphs that appeared to alternatively mock and praise Jimi. Jimi eventually became known for playing "white" music by some of the more extremist black national groups in the United States, and many speculate it was the Black Panthers who pushed Jimi into eventually disbanding the Jimi Hendrix experience to form an all-Black band. Although there are widely varying accounts as to Jimi's relationship with the Panthers, it seems clear that Jimi was heavily conflicted about the issue of race.

In terms of social interest, Jimi's use of escapism through music is also interesting to examine. Music appeared to be the one thing that let him escape painful thoughts and feelings, and it was only when he had to quit playing and deal with other human beings when he seemed to be unhappy. People certainly took terrible advantage of Jimi throughout his life, as he died with only 21,000 thousand dollars in his banking account as a result of people pilfering millions from him over the course of his career. Jimi's lack of social interest therefore appeared to be based on very real experiences with people in the world, as his early home life and professional career were filled with repeated abandonment, disappointments, and betrayals from those that he thought he could depend on.

Jimi also had a great deal of narcissism, much of which contributed to the development of his music, which was also a defining characteristic of his personality. Many people who had experienced the kind of rejection Jimi had at the beginning of his career would have simply returned to playing mainstream music, but Jimi truly believed that his music was something special despite the negative reinforcement he had received from the New York crowds. A narcissist will often believe his or her own way is not only special and unique, but also better than the way anyone else is doing it, and this was very much demonstrated by Jimi's creation of his own music.

Although narcissism is often malignant, many exceptionally talented people demonstrate high levels of this trait in their dealings with others, which was certainly true in the case of Jimi Hendrix. When someone disagrees with or challenges someone who is malignantly narcissistic, their reaction may be extreme irritation, and Jimi's interpersonal relationships seemed to represent this idea. His habitually abusive behavior towards women showed Jimi had a very low tolerance for frustration, and when others, and particularly women disagreed with him, his response to this frustration was very often physical violence.

Jimi's violence towards women may have also arisen in part from his interactions with his mother Lucille, as Jimi never seemed to develop a healthy respect for women throughout his life. His lack of a consistent feminine presence and maternal gender guiding line growing up must have created some anger in Jimi, and hearing his father's descriptions of his mother's life may have also contributed to this dynamic.

Jimi's life was therefore empty of the kind of social interest in others that many felt was a larger part of the idealism of the 1960's. Although Jimi participated in some of the causes and issues of his times, his involvement was often at the recommendation of those around him. Jimi's lack of trust in other people, which had its roots in childhood patterns, was reinforced often throughout his life, and Jimi overcompensated for his lack of interest in others by developing a truly awe-striking ability that allowed him to escape from the world. Although this talent was extraordinary, it seemed to be in part created through the sublimation of his personal pain, and this left Jimi without a path other than music in which to actively experience joy in his life. Jimi's gift of music to the world was and is a lasting contribution that influenced thousands of musicians both before and after him, but was also in many ways a reaction to a troubled history, and this was the sadness and irony of this truly unique musician.

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Source by Joe Guse